(P8) IDeate, IDem, IDiomorphic
so often left in the shadows
the child, too small to hear - yet
they were there; two of them, ears.
Often what wasn’t said
made just as much of a difference
as to what was said, shouted or slurred.
It was easy to
treat two daughters close in age
as if they were twins, although they weren’t
always the new kid in town
exceedingly shy, sensitive, left wanting,
unwelcome to tag-along, to be accepted for self.
How could a parent tell your close friend
that you were never expected to amount
too much - when it was they who were ignorant?
Being second,
it was easy to learn from the first’s mistakes
and take full advantage of bending bent rules...
when is it ever enough
the heartache, the heartbreak
the defensive posturing, eggshell walking
When will all of their the screaming stop?
In their case perhaps never - and it didn’t mean
one had to copy that behavior - learn in spite of it!
Shallow breathing
calm and steady - quicksand, mostly is something
everyone can walk out of and away from even without help.
©JP/davh
idem: pronoun; adjective: the same as previously given or mentioned.
idiomorphic: 2. having its own characteristic form.
*Id are the instincts closely connected with the body
This hits close to home. Daughter #l, born June 22, daughter #2 born next year August 20. We did treat them like twins. (daughter #1 Autism, daughter #2 considered "normal" spent most of childhood "sticking up for" daughter @1
ReplyDelete(There were also 3 girl cousins, living close by. born within 4 year period.)
If I were reading this as an anon. post, it could have been written by either, or both, of them.